Continuation of a three-day excerpt from my cousin John Black’s diaries over the weekend of Friday through Sunday, January 15-17, 1954. In these entries, John describes a weekend visit that he and his brother Peter made to my grandparents’ house in North Stonington, Connecticut. (Note: when John reached the end of a page, he would continue at the top of the same page and sometimes on to other pages in the diary.)
Sunday, January 17, 1954
We all drove into North Stonington (a most pretty white village in the best New England tradition) this morning to get the Times, & on the way back all descended for 20 minutes on an old Swedish engineering & artistic couple, Mr. & Mrs. Hansell. They took care of us all as best they could (for the children were along as well; actually I have never been at J’s & B’s when there were so few houseguests & did rather miss the solid, hard-working, well-educated but narrow optimism of the older generation, Aunt Reba or the Blisses); but mainly I just absorbed the atmosphere of their little old house. A little bit too redone, but still a sense of books & art & general intellectual luminousness & awareness in a little room in the middle of the wilderness. Back at J’s & B’s, we ate a huge dinner & then took a walk up towards Clarks Falls (but it was so cold – 5o – that we didn’t get very far). Joel held forth enthusiastically on why didn’t I do graduate work in history?, & they are still puzzled abt why Uncle K. doesn’t want them to come to Mansfield to work in the Loan. They admit that they don’t know what Mansfield is like, but they do want more money than the $4,000. J. is getting now – which is understandable! And Peter & I & Jane left on a 5.30 train - & sat in the blond “grille car” (w/the tables, clothless, along the sides) the whole time & drank, w/eventual chicken pies. Girls like this one should not be named Jane, but often are. Patsy, Joanne, or Marilyn would be more fitting. She is all right – we kept her talking abt her trip to Europe w/her erstwhile husband - & is basically intelligent, but she is so mixed up & has had such a big dose of chi-chi New York so young, that I fear she is lost. Grand Central just after 8. Peter was up at my apt. for a little while, but left shortly, & as I was very tired I went to bed soon after 10.
People mentioned on Sunday, January 17, 1954 and family members mentioned throughout:
John Baxter Black (left), age 30 at the time he wrote these entries, and his brother, Peter McEwan Black, age 28 in these entries, both photos circa 1954
|Barbara and Joel Dirlam|
with their daughters,
my mother far right circa 1954,
North Stonington, CT
Mr. and Mrs. Hansell: local friends of the Dirlams. My mother Hilary remembers two different sets of Hansells, one older, one younger, possibly (probably?) related in North Stonington. Given John’s description, “an old Swedish engineering & artistic couple…,” the journal entry likely refers to the older couple.
Reba Baxter Dirlam, my great grandmother: “Aunt Reba” was Joel Dirlam’s mother and the sister of John’s grandmother (so really his great-aunt). A Mansfield, OH native, she lived nearby, in New Haven, CT. Her husband, H. Kenneth Dirlam, moved back to Mansfield in 1938, but Reba remained in New Haven and only went back to Mansfield occasionally for visits.
Howard Kenneth Dirlam, my great grandfather: “Uncle K.” was Joel’s father, H. Kenneth Dirlam (known as Kenneth), Reba’s estranged husband. Kenneth moved back to his home town of Mansfield, OH in 1938. He moved there from New Haven, CT to help his father, Howard Buck Dirlam (“Howard”), run the family business, the Mansfield Savings and Loan bank (known to locals as the “Dirlam Savings and Loan”). Kenneth’s brother, Jay Dirlam, who died suddenly in 1938, had managed the bank with his father, so Kenneth went back home to take his place. Howard died in 1951 and Kenneth managed the bank until his death in 1968. It’s to this bank “the Loan” that Joel referred when he wondered why his father hadn’t asked him to come back to Mansfield to help.
The Blisses: John mentions that he wished for the company of “the Blisses,” who were cousins. Caroline Baxter Bliss was Reba’s sister – their other sister was Jessie Baxter Black, John’s grandmother. Caroline’s daughters Betty and Jane Bliss were Joel’s first cousins and John’s and Peter’s first cousins once removed. Because of the ages of their parents and the timing of their births, Joel, Betty, Jane, John, and Peter were close enough in age that they grew up knowing one another and they remained in regular contact their entire lives. (Jane married Fred Merrill, an English engineer, and had moved to England. The Merrills were similarly close to John, particularly after he began to live part time in London in 1966.)
Journal excerpt and photograph:
John Baxter Black diaries and family papers, Manuscripts and Archives Division, The New York Public Library.
Year-to-year value comparison calculator:
John and Peter Black photographs: in my possession, received from their estate.